15 Secrets To A Perfect And Lasting Relationship

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Secrets to A Perfect And Lasting Relationship
Perfect and Long-term relationship is what most of us
crave for… Here is the secret!
Arguably, we all know that relationships are full of ups
and downs, and it’s not perfect all the time. Now, you may
accept this flaws in love easily, but that doesn’t mean that
couples can ’t be perfectly happy.
Sometimes, the easiest way to find true happiness in love
is by throwing away your high societal expectations from
the relationship, and just making your own rules. If you
can’t, then you will always be focused on the imperfections
and you will miss all the perfectly happy moments.
Most of the time, as humans, we choose to pick flaws and
draw comparisons instead of just focusing inwards.
These 15 secrets are all you need, to ensure that both of you
have a perfectly happy relationship;
#1. Trust
If you want a happy relationship, then it needs to have
trust. I’m not just talking about the type of trust that
comes from being faithful and loyal, I’m also talking about
the trust that both of you have in each other’s ability to do
things. If you have trust, then you have respect. And that is
very important to a relationship.
#2. Respect
Every relationship should be made up of two people who
respect each other. Both of you should be on equal ground
and neither one of you should believe you’re the more
important person in the relationship.
It doesn’t matter if one of you has a higher paying job or if
one of you is more intelligent than the other, you should
respect your partner and your partner should respect you.
After all, if one of you thinks you’re better than the other,
then why are the both of you together?
#3. Chemistry
Chemistry is a huge part of what makes a relationship
work, without it, you are just two people who spend a lot
of time together. Chemistry means different things to
different people, though it can often be described as an
electric connection between the two of you, feeling at
home with your partner or even feeling like you have
known them all your life.
#4. Support
You need to be supportive of your partner, and vice versa.
You need to feel like you could tell your partner anything,
and they wouldn’t walk away from you and that they
would do everything in their power to help and support
you through it. Having a supportive partner builds you up,
makes you feel stronger and helps you to do things that
you wouldn’t normally think possible.
#5. Understanding
Every relationship needs to have a certain level of
understanding, otherwise both of you will always be at
each other’s throats. Understanding doesn’t mean that you
have to forgive your partner for things they have done
wrong, it just means that you, at least, try to see things
from their point of view.
#6. Attraction
This might sound a little obvious, but physical attraction
and mental attraction are two things that are needed in a
relationship. Attraction isn’t just about fancying someone’s
features, it’s about finding the entirety of them attractive –
mind, body and soul. If you don’t have that bond, then you
might find that your eyes would start to wander and that
can only lead down a destructive path.
#7. Fights
Arguments with your partner might not be happy times,
but it’s completely acceptable in a relationship if you are
going to stay happy together. If your partner does
something that annoys you, then you need to tell them
about it.
Holding it inside will only lead to resentment. As painful
as fights can seem, they can be a really good way to clear
the air and start over fresh. And sometimes, that’s all you
need to find your happiness again!
#8. Don’t lose yourself
It’s really important in a relationship that you don’t lose
your individual self. After all, the person you were before
the two of you got together was the person who you
partner fell in love with.
It’s very easy to get lost in your partner and to only want
to spend time with them, but for a relationship to be
happy and to stay happy, you need to be your own person
too. You don’t want to lose yourself in the relationship and
then lose the relationship, what would you have left then?
#9 Don’t have a backup plan
Love like you’ve got nothing to lose! If you want to
experience true happiness in love, stop immersing
yourself in what-ifs. Just love your partner
unconditionally, and trust them.
Now, of course, it’s not easy to do this. But when both of
you can reach this stage in love where you can trust each
other unconditionally, that’s when you’d also reach the
stage of true happiness in love.
#10. Don’t overthink
One of the easiest traps to fall into is overthinking a
relationship. It starts off with little doubts that go
unanswered and quickly snowballs into you overanalyzing
everything. The problem is that you can get lost in all the
unanswered questions, and over time, you end up mentally
distancing yourself from the relationship.
This means you end up missing out on all the wonderful
things going on around you, because you’re too busy
wondering what your partner means when they say
something!
#11. When the going gets tough
It’s really important when trying to make a relationship
last, that you don’t walk away at the first sign of trouble. If
you want a long and happy relationship, then you need to
accept that it will take some work. It won’t always be
smooth sailing, and sometimes it might not even seem like
it’s worth the effort. However, if you can work through
those times and come out of them together, then you will
be much stronger and much happier for it.
#12. Don’t forget about your friends
To have a well-balanced life, you need to have friends,
ones you can turn to when times get bad and you need
someone to talk to. Friends are the people you meet
through life who stick by you no matter what, they are the
people who see you through your relationships and help
you make it out on the other side of break ups. They are
vital and it doesn’t matter how important a relationship
might seem to you right now, but it’s important to keep
your good friends by your side.
#13. Make time for each other
The emotional bond between two partners is what replaces
the stage of infatuation as the relationship seasons. But to
have a strong bond, you need to spend time with each
other. A bond isn’t something that is cemented and even
after you share a strong connection with your lover, you
need to nurture it, to keep it.
So make sure that you always make time for each other,
even if it’s only for an hour a day, because that hour could
be the difference between your relationship lasting or
expiring.
#14. Don’t force change
People change over time, that’s just a fact of life, it’s
something that happens naturally and it cannot be
stopped. But this doesn’t mean that you can control those
changes that occur. If you try to control the changes and
tailor them to your needs, then you will only find yourself
fighting a losing battle.
Think of your partner’s habits as a river, it will only
change direction when it hits a natural bend in the path.
And trying to change your partner to the way you want, all
the time, could only end up frustrating them over time.
#15. Have common ground
If you want a long and happy relationship, then you need
to have some common ground with your partner. It
doesn’t matter if the common ground is your political
views or golfing, but both of you need to share an activity
that can be enjoyed together.
keep these secrets to a happy relationships in mind, and
remember that the biggest secret to a perfectly happy
relationship is the will to address issues together and make
things work, instead of withdrawing or resenting each other
silently.



                  AUTHOR>JAMES COULBY